Profile - deep_thoughts

I would describe myself as:
In terms of Personal drivers I 've moved very high on Maslow's Hierarchy. Deeply interested in society the environment and people around me. Socially presentable and good social skills. Have wide range of interests and activities. Proud of my family and friends. Have had incredible role models and mentors so consider myself very lucky. Live in the countryside and am very fond of my community. I am reducing time online, so rarely answer winks, if you want to get in contact please at least send a short note, :-) WARNING To fluffy bunnies and readers of Mills and boon:. Recently I seem to be getting less patient with people who contact me to tell me to cheer up or not be so judgemental. I have absolutely nothing against funny,cheerful,witty, positive and attractive women. I accept that many people have a simplistic view of the world and whose primary goal in life is only to be happy. So don't take umbrage at my warning, there are many many men out there for you. But from experience I find that is not enough for me, fine for a few hours now and then but not sufficient for a deep friendship. If your not questioning the world around you on a continual basis and building a strong understanding of society based on your own empirical observation you would find me extremely hard work. I believe that the decades ahead will be very tough ones with far less economic exuberance. It will be a time for pragmatism and strong social skills, values and character. If you're not angry and negative about the world at times you probably would find me to be way too pessimistic. I'm deeply interested in Sustainability, social justice and environmental issues. My closest friends tend to be people who are driven by principles and strong values. An enneagram 5WARNING

My ideal partner would be:
Lively inquiring mind with interest in other people, society and community. Generous heart. Secure and confident. A person who is a free thinker and driven by strong principles. A person with a similar value system. A person who has the qualities of a leader. Noblesse obligeSomeone whose skills, weaknesses and personality are balanced and or complimented by mine, someone with untapped potential. A person who is not at the centre of their own universe. Someone who has a strong social conscience. A person who can look at the world with both eyes and not hide behind a wall of optimism.I have very close friendships with my siblings,relations, friends and community so find it difficult dealing with people who have adversarial relationships with theirs . A person with a healthy curiosity and warmth for the world and people. .A person who understands the value of what is important and not swayed merely by the cost of things. A person whose presence makes the world a better place. A person with a sense of humour that is sharp yet not cutting .A few emails have pointed out that I am being overly fussy, however I dont think so, many of the people in my life have had these traits and strengths.

My ideal date would be:
Not a great fan of dates, enjoy them but don't consider them a good way to really get to know someone.Have had a great many really good dates. However I have found that both people usually put so much effort into being charming, that the relationship can develop momentum and before you know it a few months have passed. I went online not because i was finding it difficult to date but rather that while girls can enjoy me socially, they do not necessarily find my interests and drives as much fun. However I still am very interested in finding exceptional people as friends and perhaps more. I like to meet people who have a good understanding of the interdependency of people. Unfortunately this is not something which dating really shows up well, if anything exactly the opposite.